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Victim Impact Statement

On Wednesday, the 21st of May, the man who raped me was sentenced. Four years, four months and four days after the assault took place. In the end, he did not face charges of rape – the two charges of … Continue reading

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Day 15. Embody the future

Not being a rapist isn’t enough. It isn’t enough to distinguish you from a rape-enabling culture. It isn’t enough to ensure that we create a violence-free future, a world where no one has to fear sexual violence. We all have … Continue reading

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Day 12. What does your humour say about us? (Or, why rape jokes aren’t funny)

Rape isn’t funny. What could possibly be funny about trauma, humiliation and brutality? What’s amusing or joyous about a prevalent and devastating abuse of power? What’s humourous about bullying and cruelty? What’s funny about a violent epidemic that effects 1 … Continue reading

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Day 9. End Stigma

Why does the stigma of rape lie with the victim and not the perpetrator? Why do we associate disgrace with the person whose vulnerability has been exploited and not the person willing to exploit that vulnerability? Why do we look … Continue reading

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Day 8. Don’t spread triggers

The Internet can be a wonderland of potential information, connections and resources, but equally it can be a bewildering cul-de-sac where every link that you click on leads you back towards the same distressing dead-end: a rape-supporting culture. Surviving violence is … Continue reading

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Day 4. Let’s talk about rape

How does that sentence make you feel? It makes me feel confronted and uncomfortable. It makes me feel scared and uncertain. It makes tears prickle behind my eyes and the hairs stand up on my arms. And yet, it also … Continue reading

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Day 3. Calling it what it is: the language of rape

Rape is not sex. Sexual assault isn’t sex, either. And neither is sexual abuse. Why is this so hard to understand? Sex can be many things but one thing sex must always involve is the freely given consent of each … Continue reading

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