Category Archives: rape

Victim Impact Statement

On Wednesday, the 21st of May, the man who raped me was sentenced. Four years, four months and four days after the assault took place. In the end, he did not face charges of rape – the two charges of … Continue reading

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Disconnected, Or the difficulty of maintaining relationships after violence

One of the most insidious impacts of violence is the toll it exacts on your relationships, on your ability to connect to other people, to feel, to trust, to communicate, to believe in them and in yourself, to believe in … Continue reading

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Reporting to the UN Special Rapporteur on Violence Against Women

On Thursday the Australian Human Rights Commission, AWAVA and VicHealth hosted a non-governmental round table on Violence Against Women as part of the UN Special Rapporteur, Dr Rashida Manjoo’s, study tour of Australia. I was lucky enough to be invited … Continue reading

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Day 15. Embody the future

Not being a rapist isn’t enough. It isn’t enough to distinguish you from a rape-enabling culture. It isn’t enough to ensure that we create a violence-free future, a world where no one has to fear sexual violence. We all have … Continue reading

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Day 14. A Universal Declaration of Sexual Rights

Sexuality is a central part of being human. Sexuality is often an integral aspect not only of our sense of self and but also, importantly, in our relationships to others. Sexuality is both highly personal and undeniably communal. Sexual activity … Continue reading

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Day 13. Be safe, make safe, stay safe

Safe sex needn’t just refer to STIs or unplanned pregnancy and the need to protect ourselves from unexpected consequences. Safe sex is about more than our physical health. Safe sex is equally about our emotional well-being, our mental health and … Continue reading

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Day 12. What does your humour say about us? (Or, why rape jokes aren’t funny)

Rape isn’t funny. What could possibly be funny about trauma, humiliation and brutality? What’s amusing or joyous about a prevalent and devastating abuse of power? What’s humourous about bullying and cruelty? What’s funny about a violent epidemic that effects 1 … Continue reading

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