Tag Archives: say no

Where to from here?

Posted on December 28, 2010 by

I have asked myself this question many times since December 10, ostensibly the final day of this blog. In many ways, 16 days gave me ample room to explore the impacts and effects of sexual assault, to develop and reflect … Continue reading →

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Day 16. RESILIENCE

Posted on December 10, 2010 by

I wish there were a neat way to end this. I wish I could say ‘and then it got better’ or ‘and then it all went away’ or ‘and then she lived happily ever after’. But it’s not like that. … Continue reading →

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Day 15. SOLIDARITY

Posted on December 9, 2010 by

I used to think of myself as the architect of my life. The one in control. The one who dreamt up the plans, who was responsible for the construction and who, as a DIY kind of architect, mucked in there … Continue reading →

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Day 14. LIFELINES

Posted on December 8, 2010 by

To be kind to another human being, simply because you can, simply because you care, is perhaps the greatest act one person can do for another.  You might believe too much has happened to you. You may feel like a … Continue reading →

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Day 13. DISGUST

Posted on December 7, 2010 by

Sometimes, in the quiet, private space of my own mind, I allow myself to feel the force of my disgust. I allow it to unravel within me, aware that, once unleashed, it is almost impossible to pack neatly away again. … Continue reading →

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Day 12. RESPECT

Posted on December 6, 2010 by

I expect to be disrespected. Far too often I find myself, breath bated, response mechanisms on alert, just waiting for the person I’m talking to to suddenly lash out at me. I expect them to hurt me. It feels like … Continue reading →

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Day 11. INJUSTICE

Posted on December 5, 2010 by

Rape has disoriented me. It has left me stranded in a world that not only terrifies me but also thoroughly perplexes, dismays and appalls me. I can no longer seem to find any reliable indicators to reassure me of what … Continue reading →

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Day 10. LONELINESS

Posted on December 5, 2010 by

I often feel that I am standing on one side of a large canyon. Everybody else – civilization, mainstream society, all my friends and family – is on the other side.  It’s quite crowded over there – all those people … Continue reading →

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Day 9. ANGER

Posted on December 3, 2010 by

Sometimes, when I have an excess of nervous energy, I run. This is no small feat. To leave the house to go for a run on my own along a nearby and very familiar, well frequented walking path that traverses … Continue reading →

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Day 8. GRIEF

Posted on December 2, 2010 by

There is a great gaping hole at the the center of my life. Many things belong in that hole: safety, security, confidence, faith, laughter, freedom, trust, joy, focus, relaxation, pleasure, sleep, comfort, the future – the list feels endless. These … Continue reading →

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