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What does victim/survivor mean, anyway?

One of the most bewildering things about being a victim of crime is all the new language that comes with it. No longer are you just another human being living out their life as best they can. Now you are … Continue reading

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The Anniversary

A year ago, today. That twelve months have passed, that a full year lies between that day and today, is both inconceivable and illogical to me. My lived experience of the past twelve months barely allows for a sense that … Continue reading

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Where to from here?

I have asked myself this question many times since December 10, ostensibly the final day of this blog. In many ways, 16 days gave me ample room to explore the impacts and effects of sexual assault, to develop and reflect … Continue reading

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Day 16. RESILIENCE

I wish there were a neat way to end this. I wish I could say ‘and then it got better’ or ‘and then it all went away’ or ‘and then she lived happily ever after’. But it’s not like that. … Continue reading

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Day 15. SOLIDARITY

I used to think of myself as the architect of my life. The one in control. The one who dreamt up the plans, who was responsible for the construction and who, as a DIY kind of architect, mucked in there … Continue reading

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Day 14. LIFELINES

To be kind to another human being, simply because you can, simply because you care, is perhaps the greatest act one person can do for another.  You might believe too much has happened to you. You may feel like a … Continue reading

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Day 13. DISGUST

Sometimes, in the quiet, private space of my own mind, I allow myself to feel the force of my disgust. I allow it to unravel within me, aware that, once unleashed, it is almost impossible to pack neatly away again. … Continue reading

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