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Day 10. Empathy

You don’t have to have been raped to care about the occurrence of sexual violence. You don’t have to be a rape victim in order to be shocked by the appalling prevalence of sexual violence. Nor in order to be … Continue reading

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Day 9. End Stigma

Why does the stigma of rape lie with the victim and not the perpetrator? Why do we associate disgrace with the person whose vulnerability has been exploited and not the person willing to exploit that vulnerability? Why do we look … Continue reading

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Day 8. Don’t spread triggers

The Internet can be a wonderland of potential information, connections and resources, but equally it can be a bewildering cul-de-sac where every link that you click on leads you back towards the same distressing dead-end: a rape-supporting culture. Surviving violence is … Continue reading

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Day 7. Share resources

While we still have a long way to go when it comes to factual data and accurate information about sexual assault, one thing we do have access to is an ever growing network of resources online. Whether it be personal … Continue reading

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Day 6. Get your facts straight

We are all entitled to our own opinion. We can, and should, make up our own minds independently. We are not, however, entitled to make up our own facts. Before you decide to speak publicly, whether it be to an … Continue reading

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Day 5. A compassionate listener

Listening is underrated. Vastly underrated. Most of the time, most of us, are so intent on speaking, so intent on getting our point across, so impatient for the moment to let loose, that we forget to listen. We are so … Continue reading

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Day 4. Let’s talk about rape

How does that sentence make you feel? It makes me feel confronted and uncomfortable. It makes me feel scared and uncertain. It makes tears prickle behind my eyes and the hairs stand up on my arms. And yet, it also … Continue reading

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Day 3. Calling it what it is: the language of rape

Rape is not sex. Sexual assault isn’t sex, either. And neither is sexual abuse. Why is this so hard to understand? Sex can be many things but one thing sex must always involve is the freely given consent of each … Continue reading

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Day 2. The image of rape

What does a rape victim look like? What sort of person is she? Where does she come from? What does she do? Who is she? How did this happen to her? When we think of rape, what do we understand … Continue reading

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Day 1. A Supportive Space

Today is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. It is also the beginning of the 16 Days of Activism Against Gendered Violence. This year I again plan to blog each day of the campaign, focussing on … Continue reading

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